“A strong relationship requires choosing to love each other even in the when you struggle to like each other”
Relationship are not always the fairy tales we imagine. Love may feel warm at one moment and cold on the next. It is not easy when: two different peoples, two heart, trying to share one life. But this is what makes it beautiful.
What is Couple Therapy?
This is a type of psychotherapy under which an accredits therapist helps you and your partner to improve your relationship. You can learn about your responsibilities as partner, build a strong relationship and resolve conflicts between you and your loved once.
You can join couple therapy in-person or virtual therapy sessions. The initial sessions involve standard interview question including your relationship history, goals and individual priorities. Our professional therapist creates a safe environment for couples to identify their problems with aim to establish treatment goals. It also assists you to gain communication skills for resolving issues with you partner.
Which Couple Should Consider Seeking Therapy?
Most of the peoples think that couple counselling is for those who are at the border of divorce or soon breaking up. But this is not true. Therapy should be for any couple at any stage of relationship can get benefit from meeting with licensed therapist.
TL; DR
If you and your partner going through common relationship problems such as;
- Struggling with the same conflict and disagreement with no possible outcome solution.
- Couple facing with recent trauma, substance abuse, infertility, infidelity etc. which harm the mental health of any of partner.
- Couple searching for rebuilding strong bonding and romantic chemistry.
Your therapist allows you to express your feelings in front of your partner. Therapist add meaningful words to your emotional so it can be easily understanding by your partner.
Types of Couple Therapy
There are several types of couple therapy proposed by Mueller;
Gottman Method– To address conflict by equipping with problem solving skills. Improve friendships and intimacy level between both.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)- To resolve the feelings of disconnection by understanding change patterns among you and your partner. Improves attachment and connections.
Psychodynamic Couple Therapy- It investigate the hopes and fears which motivate you and your partner in understanding each other.
Ellen Wachtel’s Approach- Focuses on self-reflection instead of blaming. It improves positive aspects of the relationship.
Benefits of Couple Therapy
It is not about saving relationship every times. But it can also help peoples to separate peacefully. Both conditions it about healing as individual and as a team. It provides you below mentioned benefits.
Learn to Respond Not React- In relationship peoples usually speaks to defend not to understand. Therapist teaches you that it is you partner not your competitor. How you express needs without blaming and hearing without judgments.
Respect Each Other Perspective- Couple therapist allows things down so each person get a chance to explain their feelings When you really hear your partner pains, understanding starts to grow again.
Healing Old Wounds- We understand argument are not about dishes and bills. They are deeper feelings of rejection and not feeling loved enough. Therapist unmask and heal those emotional wounds.
Rebuilding Trust and Intimacy- Trust takes seconds to break but centuries to build. Not just through affairs and dating others, it can be broken due to neglect and incomplete promises. Your therapist rebuilds it step by step through tiny actions. Such as saying that I am here, I am trying.
Shine as Individual Too– You may surprise to hear that couple therapy is not only about relationship. It is also about self-awareness. You can your own triggers and patters which bring back into love and change them for better.
We Offer Both Online and in Person Couple Counselling
You can appoint meeting with your therapist for shared relationship concerns as a couple is best to start treatment together. But if you want come along then we suggest to take individual therapy sessions.
Online Couple Therapy- Virtual couple therapy either by video or audio calls is as effective as in-person therapy. Both of these make your relationship healthy. Research conducted by American Association of Marriage and Family reported that >97% couple got helped after getting couple therapy. It is extremely helpful for all types of relationships. Either it would be a dating or married. Virtual options serve as better for most couples rather commuting at therapist office. You can take sessions form anywhere at any time.
Is That Actually Works?
It works!! But it need equal participation from both partners. Therapy cannot create efforts or loves, it just guides couples toward understanding and change. Research from the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy reported that approximately 70-75% of couple got improvement. But actual reason behind the number is when peoples starts talking again instead of screaming. Because therapy works when couple start reaching out instead of avowing.
Couple Therapy Only for Married Couples?
No, online relationship therapy is best for peoples looking to start a relationship and reconnect with each other. It is suitable to identify your compatibility with the person whom you are going to get married. Therapist can help you and your partners at any stage of relationship from premarital to marriage counselling. You will become able to learn each other’s invaluable skills to helps improve your relationship.
A Look Inside the Session
Every therapist works differently according to their expertise, but most sessions include:
- Each partners sharing theirs sides of what is happening.
- Therapist help identify the pattern or triggers.
- Learning new communication and problems and problem solving skills.
- Practicing empathy and emotional awareness.
Sometime a therapist might give a homework including letters, scheduling time to talk or doing some small acts of kindness for your partner every day.
“It’s not about who is wrong, it is about what is going wrong”
A Warm Reminder
Benefits of couple’s therapy include reduced relationship distress and increased relationship satisfaction.
— Brain Mueller, PhD
